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Whilst self-help books can never replace psychotheraphy,  I believe that one can often derive further understanding of a problem by reading about it.  Even if you only learn one thing,  you have not wasted nor money nor your time.   
 
 
 
Human beings are very complex -- and a combination of things have created who you are.   As each person's background, upbringing, culture, beliefs, environment, family situation and personality are different, it would be impossible to write a self-help book that could possibly work with everyone.   It is because of these complexities that you need a psychotherapist to become well.    Reading too many self-help books will just confuse the heck out of you because there are so many approaches & theories when it comes to personality & psychological disorders.  
 
 
These are some of the books I recommend.   I have also included links to Chapters.ca for you to order them.   What I like about Chapters is that you can usually find used books at a reduced price -- great if you are on a budget.   
 
 
DEPRESSION 
 
 
Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convincedpsychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men -- thatmen hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigmaof depression''s "un-manliness." Problems that we think of as typicallymale -- difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, andrage-are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts onlyhurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the "pathway out of darkness" that these men andtheir families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, healthemselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixespenetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his ownexperiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and thefather of two young sons.
 
This groundbreaking book is the "pathway out of darkness" that these men andtheir families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, healthemselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixespenetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his ownexperiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and thefather of two young sons.
 
 
This groundbreaking book is the "pathway out of darkness" that these men andtheir families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, healthemselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixespenetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his ownexperiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and thefather of two young sons.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
ANXIETY & STRESS 
 
 
 
 
 
BAD  and/or ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS 
 
 
 
To make up or break up? Whether you''re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other questions causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try - or you need to go.  Also available in CD format.   A "must read" if you are in a difficult relationship and struggle with the question:  "Would I be better / happier on my own?"       By Mira Kirshenbaum
 
 
 
 
In the 3rd edition of this bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You''ll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life. Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse--and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior--from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse.Drawing from hundreds of real situations, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse--and the abuser.    By Patricia Evans
 
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From the world''s most acclaimed expert on verbal abuse comes the book that answers the question foremost in every woman''s mind: Can he really change? Every woman wishes she could bring back the man she fell in love with, rather than leave the man that he''s become. In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Patricia Evans gave a name to the corrosive issue that threatens couples'' happiness--verbal abuse.  Evans goes beyond identifying verbally abusive behaviors to prescribing a course of action for both victim and abuser. Coupling stories of abused women and abusive men from her own case studies, Evans gives readers the tools they need to transform their relationships. Most important, she assures women that such a transformation is possible--given the right circumstances. Evans also helps readers determine if he really has changed--or if he''s merely creating the illusion of change. If he hasn''t changed, Evans then helps women decide whether it''s time to leave the relationship and what to do when it is.  The Verbally Abusive Man--Can He Change? shows victims of verbal abuse how to empower themselves, improve their relationships, and change their lives for the better. By Patricia Evans
 
 
 
For victims of physical or emotioal and verbal abuse, this book has been highly successful as a working manual for women who are starting their lives over after an abusive relationship, combining guidance on practical and emotional issues with worksheets and self-exploration exercises. In the second edition, Dugan and Hock include updated information and resources while encompassing a wider range of individuals
 
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BEREAVEMENT 
 
 
A gentle and very comforting book written by a man who lost his son in his early teens, and tormented himself by asking "Why" but couldn't find answers.   Years later, Rabbi Kushner wrote this straightforward, elegant contemplation of the doubts and fears that arise when tragedy strikes. Kushner shares his wisdom as a rabbi, a parent, a reader, and a human being. Often imitated but never superseded, When Bad Things Happen to Good People is a classic that offers clear thinking and consolation to all people, not just parents, in times of sorrow.  Since its original publication in 1981, When Bad Things Happen to Good People has brought solace and hope to millions of readers      By Rabbi Harold Kushner
 
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